Staying Up All Night

Here I am at 2:11 the "night" before Thanksgiving, yakking and laughing and surfing the Web with my little sister, Laura. We always do this when she comes to visit from New York City -- up all night, then like zombies the next day, (except for the usual shopping marathon), but WHAT FUN!

When I think back on all the Thanksgivings in my life, it won't be a reflection on all the turkey and stuffing we all ate, but it certainly will be about all the love and laughs, and shared joy with friends and family like my "baby sister".

If you too have any relationships like this, then put your drumstick down and say thanks!

Happy Thanksgiving,
Susan Lager
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Compulsive Busyness

I've been meeting with clients and friends who are all ramping up their activity level prior to the holidays, and already feeling overwhelmed. Almost everyone I know, including myself, complains (and boasts) about being SO busy under ordinary ever day circumstances, so it gets hugely amplified at this time of year. I could go into psychological insights about why we're so chronically over scheduled, but I thought these quotes I found might resonate better with everyone out there who fills every minute with busyness, then feels depleted.
(I'll sign off while you're reading - gotta go do more stuff!)


Sleep tight,
Susan Lager


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Busyness Quotes

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The time to relax is -- when you don't have time for it.

- Sydney J. Harris

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It is not enough to be busy; so are the ants. The question is: what are we busy about?

- Henry David Thoreau

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My candle burns at both its ends;
It will not last the night;
But oh, my foes, and oh, my friends --
It gives a lovely light.

- Edna St. Vincent Millay

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The world is moving so fast these days that the one who says it can't be done is generally interrupted by someone doing it.

- Harry Emerson Fosdick

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The feeling of being hurried is not usually the result of living a full life and having no time. It is on the contrary born of a vague fear that we are wasting our life. When we do not do the one thing we ought to do, we have no time for anything else- we are the busiest people in the world.

- Eric Hoffer

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At work, you think of the children you have left at home. At home, you think of the work you've left unfinished. Such a struggle is unleashed within yourself. Your heart is rent.

- Golda Meir

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He who is too busy doing good finds no time to be good.

- Rabindranath Tagore

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When we get too caught up in the busyness of the world, we lose connection with   one another - and ourselves.

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Get Cozy

It's 8:55 on a frigid Sunday morning, and I awoke to a blazing fire in the family room thoughtfully prepared by my devoted "woodsman" husband, Thom. What a way to begin a 35 degree day in November!
It made me think about all the cozy rituals my family embraces, and how centering and comforting they are. I'll often ask therapy and coaching clients who are facing difficult circumstances if they have a repertoire of cozy comfort activities in their emotional "toolboxes."
I'm often surprised by the scarcity they report, or by the lack of awareness people have about what comforts them besides booze or meds!
If you haven't developed an elaborate system of ways to get cozy and give yourself comfort, then it's time to build it before you need it. Think about activities you could ritualize, like a weekend fire, or a cup of tea in the afternoon, or a bath on a Friday night. Consider this list as your arsenal of protection against overwhelming anxiety, sadness, exhaustion or loneliness. It's your personal (and partnered) treasure trove of self-care and self-soothing. You can do it alone or with your partner or family. Whatever the case, having benign ways to "get cozy" will help you decrease your trips to the doctor, the liquor store, and expensive shrinks, like me!

Happy day,
Susan Lager

Communication Workshop

For anyone wanting to beef up their communication skills, come to my "Communication Problems Gone With Simple 5 Minute Fixes" workshop on Wednesday, November 2nd at the Women Supporting Women Center in Exeter, NH at 10 AM. The cost is minimal, and the benefits you'll get are HUGE! You'll learn about the 7 most common communication problems people have, and quick tools to change the way the conversation is going. It should be very informative and FUN!
There are still a few openings, so contact Claire Huston at:

111 Water St.
Exeter, NH 03833
603-772-0799
Women Supporting Women Center