If there's one central problem I deal with most frequently in my work doing couples therapy, I'd say it's disconnection in marriage. It can happen through over- involvement with children, work, hobbies, family or hyper focus on self. It's a defensive posture, masking some internal fears. Left unexplored, it can ruin a marriage.
Often, the stage is set early in life as spouses adopt certain attachment stances in relation to early nurturing or lack of it. *(See my "resources" page at www.SusanLager.com and take the Adult Attachment Style Survey to find out about your own leanings toward healthy connection or disconnection - you may be surprised!)
Significant research findings indicate that spouses who spend more time together are generally much happier in their marriages than those who don't.
If you've lost touch with your spouse, it's time to register for a couples' retreat, to revisit or re-learn the behaviors which helped you to bond when you were courting, and to become more conscious of the defensive behaviors the two of you have adopted over the years.
Meredith Richardson, a talented mediator, collaborative lawyer, and conflict coach and I will be presenting a couples' retreat May 16-18 at the Victoria Inn in Hampton, NH. It's a charming bed and breakfast on the seacoast which we plan to have all for ourselves for the weekend, so there will be ample privacy as well as space to do this important work.
You could also join us for a Couples Retreat on beautiful Star Island, off the coast of Maine and NH, from June 21-25. It's another ideal setting for reflection and learning.
For more information, or to register, contact me at: 603-431-7131
or call Meredith at: 207-439-4267.
Space is limited, so don't wait too long - your marriage calls!
How's this for a unique couples retreat?