Here Comes The Snow!

So far, about ten inches of fluffy white snow, lots of wind, freezing temperature, but the power is still on! Life in New England is never boring. Here we all sit, tucked in, waiting for at least another 1 1/2 feet of snow during the blizzard of 2013 as Spring is supposedly around the corner.

My brother-in-law Joe says, "Move to Florida and have other things to talk about except the unpredictable weather! Enjoy 80 degree sunshine almost every day!"
I say, "How boring! We love our tumultuous weather, and our ritual hand-wringing about shoveling, freezing our butts, losing our power, and cherishing our generators! Besides, if I moved to Florida, I'd be surrounded by traffic, people and buildings everywhere! We're New Englanders! We love our mountains, our forests, our ocean, our countryside, our changing seasons, our history, our lobster, our accents, our fireplaces, our N'oreasters, and even our "almost Spring blizzards"!

(Now, this weekend as my family heads up to Sunday River to tackle the slopes covered with a fresh two feet of snow, hopefully my adventurous spirit will prevail, I won't have heart failure being back on skis for the first time in ten years since my knee gave out, and I'll remember my own speech about how lovely it is to be wild in New England)......

Here's to the white stuff,
Susan Lager
PS.  Don't forget to get an early copy of my new book, "Become Relationship Smart Without A Lifetime of Therapy." I think you'll really like it! It's available on Amazon at: http://amzn.to/WBK83q

My new book is out! "Become Relationship Smart Without A Lifetime Of Therapy"

I am delighted to announce that FINALLY my new workbook, "Become Relationship Smart Without A Lifetime of Therapy" has been published and is available as a paperback on Amazon! It's a goldmine of tools and skills necessary for you to do better in any relationship. If I do say so myself, I think you'll LOVE it! (I do). Enjoy!

You can purchase it now on my CreateSpace eStore at: https://www.createspace.com/4077013

Or, you can get it on Amazon at: http://amzn.to/WBK83q

"Be A Better Partner With Self Awareness" BlogTalk Radio Show Using My New Book!

Tune into my BlogTalk Radio show, "Be A Better Partner With Self Awareness," Wednesday, January 30th at 8:30 PM EST. Call in toll-free 877-497-9046 to just listen or join me live on the air.

In this episode I'll explore the issue of how knowing one's own hangups can vastly improve any relationship.
Using some key tools from my newest workbook "Become Relationship Smart Without A Lifetime Of Therapy," I'll shares some vital questions we all must ask ourselves in order to be more conscious and loving in our partnerships. To get the book as a guide, go to: http://amzn.to/WBK83q

Don't miss this episode if you want to get a first peek at some of the simple, but very important questions you must start asking yourself to have happier relationships!

Down With The Flu

This photo tells it all. It's the way I've been feeling for the last two days, and that, even after a Flu shot!
What a shame with such grand plans for a weekend x-country skiing on an idyllic farm in Southern Maine! Four inches of packed powder, new snow on its way, and here I am, blowing my nose, sleeping all day and night, and thankful for my ability to keep down tea and chicken soup!

When we get sick, it feels horrible, but the bright side is that it forces people like me to SLOW DOWN,
WAY DOWN, and reevaluate how critical our ambitious little plans are in the big scheme of things.
It also gives our partners opportunities to nurture us with "holding down the fort," (dishes, laundry, shopping), as well as providing us with comforting remedies like Ginger ale, flu medicines, and in my husband's case, a big pot of chicken soup he learned how to make on his own!

So before the fever breaks, I think I'll take it all in and try to flow with the state of sloth, knowing it only comes around once in a few years!

Down With The Flu

BlogTalk Radio Show Year In Review Summary. (You asked for it!)

On January 2, 2013 I did my last BlogTalk Radio Show, "2012 Year In Review. Options For Looking Back, Then Forward." It was a very successful episode with quite a few live listeners, and nearly 500 "listens" to the recorded show in the five days since then! As per your many requests, I'm posting the two types of reviews here, each creating a very different sense of things, and a different spin on your life, looking back, then forward.
To hear the recorded show in its entirety, go to: www.BlogTalkRadio.com/SusanLager

If you're doing your own 2012 Year In Review you could reflect back in the most common way on these things:

• how much money you made or didn't

• how often your body broke down with illness

• how many vacations you went on, and if they were worth the cost, and the time you took off

• how much weight you gained or lost

• if you finally stopped smoking or not

• how your spouse drove you crazy

• which friends let you down, and how

• if you got your house de-cluttered or not

• who had a messy affair; who got divorced

• who died and how

• your failures at work

• how much you wasted your gym membership

• your guilt about not reading more books

• your disappointments as a parent

• tragedies which occurred, making you paranoid

• the huge amount of taxes you paid or now owe

(Blah, blah, blah....) Any others I’ve missed?

Or you could do this kind of Year In Review:

• what were my major accomplishments at work?

• what positive steps did I take in my marriage?

• how was I more thoughtful and loving to my family?
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• did I do any better at setting appropriate limits around time asked of me?

•  how well did I take care of myself physically?

• did I expand myself intellectually and spiritually?

• what major lessons did I learn in 2012?

      

•  did I have enough fun this past year?

• did I stand up for what's important to me?

• what did I model for my children?

• was I a generous enough friend to the people I care about?

• whose accomplishments brought me joy?

Get the difference? After you have (hopefully) chosen the latter set of reflections, you have a beginning template for an even better 2013!  For help regarding negative self talk, feel free to contact me at my office at 603-431-7131 to set up an appointment for some brief psychotherapy work.

Tune into my next show on Wednesday, Jan. 30th.  And have a happy, productive and meaningful New Year!

2012 Year In Review BlogTalk Radio Episode January 2nd 8:30 PM

Don't miss my next BlogTalk Radio episode, "2012 Year In Review, Options For Looking Back, Then Forward." I'll be broadcasting at 8:30 PM EST, encouraging a conversation with callers who can join me live on the air by calling toll-free 877-497-9046. We'll be dealing with choices we all have about what markers we focus on, and how that may impact our experience of reflection, as well as our attitudes about the future. It should be interesting!

If you can't make the live show, you can listen to the archived episode at:
www.BlogTalkRadio.com/SusanLager