Next 30 Minute BTR Podcast 3/6/19 at 8:30 PM EST: "4 Communication Styles That Can Ruin Your Marriage, And How to Fix Them"

On Wednesday, March 6th at 8:30 PM EST I'll be airing this 30 minute podcast about a vital issue you and your spouse need to know about - the 4 biggest communication violations around conflict, their dire effect on marriages, and how, with some do-able attitude and behavioral adjustments you can avoid their negative cascade of effects often leading to divorce.

Don't become another statistic! Learn to behave better in your marriage, even when you're angry, disappointed, or anxious, and need to let your spouse know about that. Become aware of the ways you can either communicate in an offensive or respectful manner, especially when you're upset.
To join into the conversation live with questions or comments call into the studio at 877-497-9046 and dial "1" on your phone. I'd love to have you part of a conversation!

Best,
Susan

Listen to my 2/18/19 eight minute interview on National Broadcast Radio here!

Here's todays interview about my business and myself. See what you think:

http://nbrfm.com/showfiles/2018/Susan%20Lager-02%2018%2019-Couples%20Therapy-Chris.mp3

Don't miss my interview on National Broadcast Radio Monday, 2/18 at 1:48!

I am being interviewed by National Broadcast Radio on Monday, February 18th
at 1:48 for a brief 8 minutes. If you'd like to tune in live go to  www.nbrfm.com/studio2
to hear me talk about my business and the services I provide, how I got into this field,
and where I see myself going in the future.

Don't miss this broadcast!

Next 30 minute BlogTalk Radio podcast: Wed., 1/30/19 8:30 PM EST: "How to Interrupt Frustrating Impasses and Standoffs With Your Spouse"

In this 30 minute episode I explore the frequently experienced issue of standoffs or impasses in marriage – those times when couples get “locked in” to a negative sequence when nobody feels heard or acknowledged, and nothing gets resolved. These “lock-in’s” can be about critical issues of importance or minor things, but the feelings of frustration, anger, and helplessness generally feel quite awful for each spouse.

Tune in to get some handy tools this couples therapist can teach you to interrupt the impasses, manage yourself more calmly, and move forward with your spouse in a more conciliatory manner.

Join me and have to option to be live on the air with questions or comments by calling toll-free 877-497-9046.

If you can’t make the live podcast you can stream it anytime at: www.BlogTalkRadio.com/SusanLager.

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Susan Lager

"Quieting the Noise in Your Head" BlogTalk Radio Podcast Wed. 11/28/18 8:30 PM EST

"You'll never finish that project!"
 "You're a loser!"
"You're too fat and nobody will find you attractive!"
"You're unlovable!"
"You're mean and selfish!"

Chances are, at one point or another in time you've heard that noise in your head - the oppressive voices of self doubt and self denigration. You probably also have experienced the toxic impact this self talk can have, freezing you out of effective action, isolating you, exhausting or overwhelming you.

If you relate to this, then I'd recommend that you tune into my next half hour BlogTalk Radio podcast on Wednesday, November 28th at 8:30 PM EST at www.BlogTalkRadio.com/SusanLager

If you'd prefer you can call live into the studio with questions or comments at toll-free 877-497-9046.
I'll be discussing this topic, sharing key tools for quieting the noise in your head, such as naming The Voice and understanding the setup ingredients, among others. You don't want to miss this podcast! It could help you lower anxiety, self doubt and your stress response!

*If you'd like some individual help with this issue outside the podcast, feel free to call my confidential voicemail at: 603-431-7131 to make an appointment.

Persistence - Some Signs Indicating Whether It's Working For or Against You

Persistence - Some Signs Indicating if It's Working for You or Not (Barley's Persistence): There in the water is Barley, our grand-dog whom we've been dog sitting for during the past week while our son and daughter-in-law were away at a wedding. We adore Barley, who is very sweet and smart, and unbelievably persistent - possibly partly due to his being half Border Collie and half German Shepherd, both working dogs bred for their determination around completing tasks. What you see above is a moment in time while Barley was in our favorite lake by our boat, swimming around and fetching the ball. What the shot doesn't reveal is that he did this ALL DAY NONSTOP, even when we tried to coax him back into the boat. He was doing his thing, having a blast, enjoying the whole experience. Persistence generally works fine for him. If you think of yourself as being persistent how would you know if it's working for or against you? Persistence can be double edged - it can veer into obsessiveness, alienation and empty efforts creating undue frustration. So, here are some signs to observe to help you determine how your persistence may be a positive or a negative around certain activities and attitudes: 1. Are you having fun in the process or is your blood pressure just getting elevated? 2. Have you issued some sort of disclaimer related to the time you need, or negotiated it with a partner, or are you isolating around your efforts in a way others may find rude or hurtful? 3. Are you experiencing some desired outcome for your efforts or would Barley think that you're barking up the wrong tree? 4. Are you maintaining balance and attending to other things needing your attention or is your persistence canceling out other important things on your agenda? 5. Are you respectful of other's time and energy or is the "bug in your bonnet" leading to excessive reminding, prompting or nagging to get others on board? These are only a few signs which might be good indicators of how persistence is working for you. The main point is to be conscious and intentional about it. It's okay when you're a dog to just "dive in" all day, but most of us don't have that luxury! Susan PS. If you need some outside help with this or any other issue feel free to contact me to set up an appointment. I'd be glad to help! Couplesctr@gmail.com                                          603-431-7131