Premature Planting

If you live here in the Northeast, you too were probably baffled and delighted by the unseasonably, record breaking hot weather last week. I'm talking mid to high 80's in mid March! Everyone went from layers of wool bundling to practically naked overnight. What also happened was a lot of overly optimistic, premature planting of gardens by people who figured it's now Spring, just because it actually is Spring. Big mistake. Lots of folks have now set themselves up for the bitter disappointment and frustration of frostbitten veggies and flowers when the arctic weather returns during "mud season".

This may seem like a stretch, but I think sometimes when we "prematurely plant", presuming certain outcomes, rather than patiently waiting for things to unfold, as sometimes they must, we set up avoidable aggravations down the road. (Isn't that what they mean by the saying, "Don't count your chickens before they hatch"?)
Some things, like the weather, cannot be controlled, counted on, or rushed, so try to be mindful of where you make idealistic presumptions which then govern your actions. In my case, when the temperature hit 83 degrees last week, I somehow resisted the urge to haul my 10,000 pairs of boots up to the attic to make room for my 15,000 pairs of open-toed, summer shoes. Good thing, because had I not, I'd now have frostbitten feet and boxes all over my bedroom, needing to be reloaded!
Be careful about what you count on!

Shivering,
Susan Lager
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If you're totally broke, approaching our beloved tax season, just subscribe to my site for a long list of "Free Reports" (Sign up button is on the right side of this page.) Whatever you do, STOP PLANTING VEGGIES NOW IF YOU LIVE IN NEW ENGLAND! BE PATIENT!

I'm Back! (And Refueled)

I know, it's been two weeks with me incognito, unfortunately not hanging out sipping Pina Colada's on a beach in the Caribbean. The much less lovely truth is that I've been getting my personal taxes ready for my accountant, working hours each day assembling documentation, and tabulating figures. I'd rather be tarred and feathered than endure this each year, so when I come up for air, I'm religious about rewarding myself and "refueling" with someone special. This time it was with my beloved "baby" sister, Laurelei, as I call her.

We spent more than four days yakking, shopping, site seeing, eating, speed walking, watching "Doc Martin" for hours on end, and yakking. Did I already mention that? It was pure heaven, partly because we're very well aligned in interests, but mostly because we adore and enjoy each other. Whenever she leaves to return to New York City, I feel a weird mixture of sadness and fullness - not only in relation to all the food we ate, but mostly related to the joy of our connection.

I'm telling you this because I think it's vital for everyone to have someone to "refuel" with. It doesn't have to be a family member if your family is "vile" (as Doc Marin says). It just needs to be someone you enjoy who meets you with good energy, so you can go back to the grind of whatever you need to do with a sense of connection, and the experience of living well with joy.
What relationships refuel you?

Cheers,
Susan Lager
PS.  The Wednesday, March 21st 8:30 PM Blogtalk Radio show has been rescheduled to Wednesday,
       April 4th at 8:30 PM.  I will announce the topic and guest soon, so stay tuned......

Blogtalk Radio Show! "Compassion, Unity, Fairness, and Fun" 3/7 8:30 PM

Tune in to my next BlogTalk Radio show for an open microphone session discussing my thoughts and your thoughts about compassion, unity, fairness, and fun in marriage and close relationships.
Share your questions and stories about these issues as you see them playing out in your own marriage or close partnership. Call in toll-free at 877-497-9046 or catch this episode live streaming through the web player on the right. If you can't join us live, catch the recorded show at:
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Avoid Money Wars In Your Marriage!

This was recorded one year ago prior to tax time, but aside from dated information about my sites, it's all still very relevant. (If I wasn't so obsessed with getting my own taxes done, I'd record a fresh new video). What is your marital money agreement?

Keep the peace,
Susan Lager
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